tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19505042.post660259003377595970..comments2024-01-29T06:02:39.583-08:00Comments on Suzanne's Bookshelf: Love and Respect 8Suzanne McCarthyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07033350578895908993noreply@blogger.comBlogger7125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19505042.post-75248014666010116182009-03-27T22:07:00.000-07:002009-03-27T22:07:00.000-07:00"It is only to say that becasue God has made ..."It is only to say that becasue God has made your husband responsible (review Eph. 5:22-33), he needs the authority to carry out that responsibility. No smoothly running organization can have two heads. To set up a marriage with two equals at the head is to set it up for failure. That is one of the big reasons that people are divorcing today. page 221 "<BR/><BR/>This quote from L&R is typical comp teaching I heard for years. But if you analyze it there are several problems.<BR/><BR/>1. If the husband 'needs' the authority to carry out his responsiblity then ONLY the wife can give him that authority. That means the wife HAS authority to give. <BR/><BR/>2. The whole concept of 'two heads' is one I heard a zillion times. After a while I had to rethink this because the way they are teaching it...head as authority...means the wife will always have TWO 'heads'. One is Christ and the other her Husband. And we know that cannot be right.Lydiahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17367390474045060624noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19505042.post-26112653766261631902009-03-27T12:22:00.000-07:002009-03-27T12:22:00.000-07:00Suzanne - thanks you so much for this post which I...Suzanne - thanks you so much for this post which I have read at the end of a difficult week at work. What actually interests me is that this view of a man's "authroity" and "role" in mariage then spills over into wider society, into the way many men feel women should look up to them simply becuase of the role they haveJanehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04405344181636487394noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19505042.post-26414483730412547902009-03-25T11:34:00.000-07:002009-03-25T11:34:00.000-07:00Whoops! I meant that second-to-last sentence to r...Whoops! I meant that second-to-last sentence to read, "It is our human tendency throughout history to make <B>marriage</B> into one, but the things Jesus taught were meant to counteract that."Kristenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08252374623355509404noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19505042.post-13258300159297663042009-03-25T11:30:00.000-07:002009-03-25T11:30:00.000-07:00Why, oh why, must some Christians insist that marr...Why, oh why, must some Christians insist that marriage is "an organization" or should work like one?<BR/><BR/>Do they not realize that this view of marriage as an institution, an organization, is one of the reasons many in the world today just avoid it altogether?<BR/><BR/>Marriage is an organic unit, a sythesis, a joining of two into one body. It is, or should be, the best kind of best-friend relationship you could ever have. <BR/><BR/>Best friends do not need one of them to be the leader. In that case they wouldn't be best friends, they'd be hero and sidekick. One thing best friends never are, is boss and subordinate as in an employment model. As soon as you set up that model, the friendship has been compromised. That's why bosses are advised to never become close friends with their employees, but to always maintain a certain distance.<BR/><BR/>A business is an organization. It is our human tendency throughout history to make it into one, but the things Jesus taught were meant to counteract that. We are to be "one flesh," and a body isn't an organization.Kristenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08252374623355509404noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19505042.post-48114171094858812822009-03-23T07:43:00.000-07:002009-03-23T07:43:00.000-07:00I don't have the book anymore... My impression up...I don't have the book anymore... My impression upon reading it was extreme frustration because I lived what he preaches. I was always so careful to be respectful and to make sure our children were respectful. And I believed that he was "a godly man", I put him on a pedestal, I supported his dreams, I followed him around the world from job to job and believed that he lost them because "no one appreciated him"... He had his own little kingdom at home where he was the undisputed KING and we all catered to and served him and his interests. <BR/><BR/>So, when I read this book, I was FRUSTRATED. Because I PRACTICED what he PREACHES, and it just about killed me emotionally, and it was not healthy for my husband, enabled his denial of some of his root issues which bit him over and over and over again in his employment history. I failed to be the life-saving ezer [help MEET] God intended.<BR/> <BR/>For marriages like mine, the book is a manual for enabling.Gemhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02778796852665760660noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19505042.post-15241628921361088432009-03-23T06:49:00.000-07:002009-03-23T06:49:00.000-07:00Equality in relationship is the reason for divorce...Equality in relationship is the reason for divorce? Seems contradictory to me. Interesting that research supports that women who are abused have a divorce rate of 75% and non-abused women have a divorce rate of 15%. (Nason-Clark 2004)If this is true as research suggests, then what really leads to the high divorce rate?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19505042.post-63175041899058322652009-03-23T04:59:00.000-07:002009-03-23T04:59:00.000-07:00There is no evidence that the New Testament suppor...There is no evidence that the New Testament supports a single head of a local church(not really an organization, but some would think so). The opposite seems to be the NT norm, so why should marriage need a single head. Besides, my God has three heads. Oops! I fell right into their logical trap. Of course the Father is the big boss and Jesus is subservient. Now I just have to figure out if Jesus is greater than Muhammad or not.Ghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12509596389764649667noreply@blogger.com