- A head sacrifices his wants and needs to please and build up his partner (Ephesians 5:2ff.) Well, since this is also true of the wife (Ephesians 5:21 -"submit to one another," then what is the difference? A head only exercises authority to over-rule when he believes his spouse is doing something destructive to her or the family. In a marriage, where there are only two "votes", how will the stalemate be broken in cases where there is not just a difference in taste or preference, but in cases where both parties believe the other is seriously mistaken? There can be no unity unless one person has the right to cast the deciding "vote". That person knows that, along with this "right' comes the greatest accountability and responsibility.
Who wrote this? Apparently Tim and Kathy Keller. Saints preserve us. Are these poor people entirely lacking in imagination? It seems so.
If I loved someone I would try to stop them from doing something destructive. I would want to protect that person.